Lifestyle Color Definitions

Displaying your lifestyle colors allows you to be identified by other people in the lifestyle. It also allows you to show your level of sharing and what you are seeking.

There are two important parts to showing your lifestyle colors.

Your SHARING colors show what you share with others.

Yellow – Voyeur

Wear yellow if you’re not interested in physical play with others. This might mean that you prefer to watch and be watched (where appropriate, of course) or that you aren’t quite ready to jump in and play….yet. Remember, you can always change your mind about your sharing status and you can wear different colors when you feel like sharing more or less. Some couples like to play in the presence of other swingers, but aren’t into actually engaging physically with anyone but their own partner.

Orange – Soft Swap

You can choose orange if you are interested in soft swapping, but aren’t interested in full swap. This generally means that kissing and touching (and sometimes oral sex) is OK with others, but penetrative sex is not OK with anyone but your own partner. It’s a good idea to talk about what soft swap means with each new couple you meet because it can include oral sex, but it can also mean only touching is OK. It’s best to discuss boundaries and expectations before engaging sexually with anyone.

Red – Full Swap

If you’re ready to go all the way, then wear red. Red shows that you are comfortable with engaging in penetrative sex with people other than your own partner. Of course, wearing red does NOT mean that you are OK to have sex with anyone, just that you are open to the idea if you feel a connection. It’s a good idea to discuss details and expectations with any potential partners because people often have rules and preferences that are good to know before you dive in to the sex.

Your SEEKING colors show what you are looking for with others.

Pink – seeking single females

Pink shows that you are interested in meeting single females. Many couples love the experience of adding a third to their playtime and this shows that you are looking for single women.

Blue – seeking single males

Blue shows that you are interested in meeting single males. Many couples love the experience of adding a third to their playtime and this shows that you are looking for single men.

Purple – group play

Wearing purple shows that you enjoy sexual activity that involves groups (usually 4 or more people all interacting).

Green – Hall Pass

The color green is a signal that you engage in play without your primary partner. This shows that you are available to play alone, without your primary partner.